|Engagement Ring Advice for Guys
How to Buy Her an Engagement Ring She'll Love
Before we get started, can I be honest with you? The best way to
buy her an engagement ring she'll love is to let her pick it out
herself. She'll wear this ring every day. It must feel good on her
finger and it must suit her lifestyle. Sometimes it takes trying
on many, many stones and settings to determine which ring is truly
But you still want to go it alone, don't you? Maybe because you
want to surprise her with the engagement ring, or because you don't
want her to be involved with pricing and payment issues. That's
fine--if you put some thought into it you can buy an engagement
ring that she'll love almost as much as she loves you.
Number 1: PAY ATTENTION!
Paying attention to her jewelry likes and dislikes is the first
big step towards finding her the perfect engagement ring:
* What metal color does she wear? Most women have a definite preference.
If she loves white gold or platinum, don't even look at a diamond
or other stone mounted in a yellow gold ring setting.
* What style of jewelry does she wear now? Is it contemporary-looking,
with bold styling? Does she prefer rings that look vintage, or would
you say that the jewelry she wears is classic, resembling those
timeless pieces that never go out of style?
The best indication of her tastes is the jewelry she wears all the
time, not items she only wears occasionally, because it's the full-timers
that she's most comfortable with.
Number 2: Has She Hinted at her Likes and Dislikes?
Has she ever mentioned her favorite jewelry styles or pointed out
engagement rings when you're shopping together? If not, take her
shopping. It isn't difficult to steer yourselves towards the jewelry
stores. If you want to be subtle, say you're looking for a new watch,
but be sure to pause at the engagement ring counters.
Maybe she has a friend who recently became engaged. Does she like
her friend's engagement ring? Why or why not?
Does she like diamonds? Some women don't. Sapphires and rubies are
both durable gemstones that are often set into engagement rings
for women who don't like diamonds.
Number 3: What Looks Best on Her Hands?
An elongated diamond, such as a marquise or oval, can make short
fingers look more sleek--but be careful not to overdo the look or
it could have the opposite effect.
Wide bands usually make fingers appear even shorter than they are,
so think proportional:
* Women with long fingers can easily wear bold ring styles.
* A setting that's extremely delicate could get lost on large hands,
over-emphasizing their size and making the ring look smaller.
Number 4: Choose the Right Shape & Setting
Round diamonds are the number one shape chosen by brides, but maybe
not your bride. She might prefer an elongated marquise, oval or
pear-shaped stone, or an square or emerald cut diamond. Fancier
shapes, such as hearts, are another option.
Do you think she'd like a solitaire diamond, set alone in a band,
or would she prefer a cluster of stones? Her current jewelry can
give you clues about her preferences.
Number 5: Consider her Lifestyle
How will the ring fit in with her lifestyle? Does she work in a
profession where fussy jewelry would look out of place? Even if
she doesn't, remember that a pointed gem with high prongs could
snag clothing (and people) and is harder to keep clean. Save that
type of ring for gifts that will be worn on special occasions, not
Number 6: What's her Ring Size
Does she have rings that she wears on her engagement finger? Maybe
a friend or family member could get hold of one of them long enough
for you to have it sized. Of course, you'll have to swear the messenger
Number 7: Consider a Loose Diamond
If you think you know which shape she loves, buy a loose diamond
to show her when you ask the big question. The two of you can shop
together later for the perfect engagement ring setting